Him: I'll be in your city soon. Want to meet up for dinner??[This is not the first time he has said that...and a mere 12 hours later he follows up, so I'm not sure what his version of 'respecting my decision' means.]
Me: No thanks.
Him: Boo. Really? {insert FB 'sticker' to indicate frustrated emotion} I respect your decision, but wish we could be friends
Him: BTW, why don't you want to hang out? We've both had significant others since we dated. Doesn't that mean we can be friends now?[You're all asking yourselves right about now why I'm engaging in this conversation, right? Me too.**]
Me: I have enough friends and don't need reminders of failed relationships. I've thought about them enough. Why do you keep pushing it every so often over the years when I keep saying no?
Him: Okay. I give up. I "keep pushing it" because I want to reconnect with an old friend and hope you've gotten over it now since it's been almost 10 years and you've had other relationship. {insert FB sticker to indicate confused emotion.}
Me: Sure, I've gotten over it and moved on, which is why I'm happy with the friends I have.
And I leave you with that to ponder. We've had this 'conversation' before.
Off to spend the day drinking beer with the guy I'm actually dating, to be followed tomorrow morning with my first running race ever (a 5k on campus) so that I can at least have a race experience once before doing 13.1 miles next month. Ack! I need to come up with a running plan for the next few weeks. I've done 10.4 so I'm not too worried, but would like to do at least a 12 or 13 mile run before then.
[**I do have his phone number blocked so he cannot text me. Not sure if he realizes that or not. He doesn't email. Now every so often he'll send a FB message. Why haven't I unfriended him? Because I don't want the email asking, "Why, Jenski, why?" Although now that I write that, an email would be easier to ignore...]
5 comments:
Go for it. Be strong and get rid of him immediately! You'll feel completely free. No questions, nothing. just an easy button when that little notification pops up in your email- "are you sure you want to delete this email?"- yup, I sure do.
Another lady hero, 10.4 miles! Fantastic. As a child of a man who has done countless of ridiculously long races, I have never seen the man do the actual milage of a race during training. for a half, he says that no more than 10 is necessary, for once you hit the 9-mile marker, what's 4 more miles. For his final leg of an Ironman, 26.2 miles, aka a marathon, he never runs more than 19 miles during training. So, I'd say in my personal athletic spectating lifetime, you're ready. you'll be great.
I was going to train for a marathon once, but I kept getting winded trying to walk the car to go train.
I think you know how I'd vote re: the ex. ;)
It can be hard to keep an appropriate distance from exes. I have one that I like to keep in touch with, but it is a balancing act. It's a quirk of my personality that I don't like to let go of people, but I'm not sure if that's healthy or not.
A long delayed response to particularly wonderful comments if you ever check back. :-)
Lynmittsky, I totally didn't have to run the whole distance and the race ended up as good as I expected! Your comment definitely made me feel better leading up to the race. Thank you!
Ron. See. This is how I feel at heart. I will continue to run because it is efficient exercise, but I still resist liking it.
Molly, evidence you still read. ;-) Love you.
Spark, this particular ex? He wasn't a bad guy, and I think that is why I won't cut the ties. That ex in the middle? Totally did ONLY what was best for him and I am glad that those ties have been cut. It was a different kind of hurt with the latter one; the former was different.
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