Right under my nose?

I spent time today with a friend I had not seen in years. We would email maybe once a year or so, but had not really kept in touch that well. She got married last spring and lives within an hour of me, so it was great to see her, meet her man, and hang out. We talked of relationships, as people will do. She was asking me about what happened with CF, who she didn't know much about, if you need an indication of how frequently we talked. She laughed that at least I was not dating the ex-ex.

She and her hubby have known each other for 10 years but only started dating a couple of years ago. They spent a lot of time "not liking" the other, before they found themselves at an event, she mentioned some other guy, and her now husband started making his move. So we were joking about maybe there is someone right. under. my. nose. A guy who has been there all along; who I am missing.

I cannot think of that guy though. Over the years, through grad school and my post doc, I have had some serious, but fleeting, crushes on various guy friends. A couple of whom if they ended up in my current city, well, look out boys. A friend from college and I have a fair amount in common, but I have sadly never had a crush on him (although I did promise to run a half marathon with him next November in Disney if he decides to do it again, and he's not the type to let me get out of it...who's in???). And just this week, because several people are leaving my church where RF is, I told him that I suppose he has to leave next, and he should move to my city! (We have an ongoing "competition" to see who can get more friends to move to their locale. I figure getting him to move here is the ultimate win. He did not go for it.)

The dude from the online dating thing and I have been out twice now. As with previous online dating experiences, I do not really need to make new friends with random people, that is what my job, possibly a new church I have been visiting, and maybe even my alumni club here, are for. I definitely have stronger feelings towards guys with whom I have been friends first, but I do not think I find him attractive enough to get to know him better to see if his attractiveness grows on me. Make sense?

I also hung out with someone who used to work at the same company as my BIL. I call it a non-date, because it was under the premise that we are both new to this place (although he went to college here), and are happy to meet new people. Non-dates are funny when it is with only two people who are attracted to the gender of the other person though. One beer turned into two, turned into bar trivia and hanging out for nearly 3 hours. We are hanging out again this week. He seems more like the kind of guy who would totally grow on me; I am much more comfortable hanging out with someone with whom I share a common person; and as I am sure Rapunzel would agree, pre-screened friends are always better. So yay for another non-date with BIL guy?

Also my cat is sick. Boo. She is perking up a bit, so I think the antibiotics and appetite stimulants are helping...