CF dodged a bullet, and apparently he did not really take it that seriously.
As of the end of this month, I will have been here 18 months (plus ~ 1 1/2 weeks, but who is counting?). Time is easy to keep track of when you are a renter. I thought six months ago, that I would move. That did not happen. My six-month extension to my lease is up May 31st, and I had not heard from nor contacted my management "company", hereafter known as MC. (It is a husband/wife company, hence the quotes. I feel the need to explain because my father recently harassed me, in a totally loving way of course, about my use of quotes, which I feel is quite infrequent and completely intentional when I do it. But I digress.) I have been looking at apartments and houses for the past two months, occasionally sending one to CF.
I found a three bedroom with land. On a lake. With a dishwasher. For $1600/month. He did not respond to the email.
Anyway, while I think living in the area where I do that my next move should certainly be to live on a lake, I started getting anxious when I heard my MC's message that they wanted to show the apartment Monday, and I could be moving in three weeks. (With the things I have this month, it would more likely have been in two weeks?!) I guess that they only bother contacting you when your lease is coming up if they think you might stay?
I called CF to let him know. He just kept pushing the won't-they-just-let-you-go-month-to-month thing. I tried to explain that sometimes that is not possible; I would call them back; I just wanted him to know that I may need to move.
After a quick cry on my way home, I left my MC a message. When they called me back, I discovered they thought I was leaving the area based on our previous conversation about the now expiring six month extension; I had first dibs on staying and they were happy to have me do so; and it is just another $20/month because I can essentially leave whenever with month-to-month. [Insert big sigh of relief.]
I called CF to let him know he was off the hook. That is actually what I said: "You are off the hook. But just so you know, you aren't off the hook indefinitely." He was all nonchalant about it. Said he didn't see any reason they wouldn't go month-to-month. I told him (sarcastically) that I was glad I was the only one who had worried about it and also glad he wasn't worried about me. We quickly got off the phone so he can feign the appearance of working on stats. Whatev.
Off to finish my beer and string cheese dinner. Healthy, I know, but I got myself all worked up about possibly (and at the time I thought likely) moving in three weeks. I was not hungry when I got home. The good news is that my sunburn was not in vain and I will be able to enjoy the gardening I did over the weekend!
6 comments:
As a person who likes to plan things that would totally have stressed me out. I mean if they didn't do month to month I would have been having a breakdown. Glad things worked out for you!
I too am glad that things worked out for you regarding your apartment.
Three bedrooms on a lake sounds really nice! (as long as the lake isn't fed by a river that will make it flood)
It is really hard when one person in a relationship is ready to commit and the other one isn't. Sometimes I think that since men can father children for quite some time*, their clock for getting married and having kids is not in sync with women's clocks. Women know that there is only so much time to have kids and that waiting until your career is settled and you feel like your life is "stable" sometimes isn't possible. I know that this isn't exactly the topic of your post, but looking at some of your recent posts and reading between the lines, this is what I felt like commenting upon.
*As for men and their biological clock, the reason for the asterisk is this:
In the process of a genetics project that a student of mine did this semester, we discovered that there is a spontaneous mutation that causes dwarfism (achondroplasia). Men who are over 50 when they father children are more likely to have their sperm contain this mutation and have children with achondroplasia. So, their "clock" is not limitless either, really. Of course 50 is still a far cry from 35. *sigh*
Ack!!! I can feel my sperm mutating already!!!! Arrrrrr.....
Ron, I totally would have had a breakdown of some sort?!
Danielle, I have reminded CF a couple times that we are not getting younger...
I am also going to let CF know that his swimmers are not immune to aging. :-)
Seriously?! What a situation! Wow, I would have been beside myself. I am not good with change even when I've had months to plan it. Sudden change is almost unfathomable. I have to say that I am singularly unimpressed with CF. He is accumulating quite the list of proofs of his irresponsibility. If I were in your shoes, I'm not sure if the relationship would have survived. Anyhoo, I'm happy to hear that you can stay in your current home as long as you like. That's a big relief.
Not gunna lie, Spark, this is getting old. I'm struggling a bit with it all.
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