Mom: We just want you to be happy.I guess it is true. I just wonder how it all came up in conversation. I am sure one or both parents expressed concern about my relationship status and general state of (un)happiness in grad school, and my sister assured them that I am fine. Which I am. But it is still weird to think they talk about me.
Me: I am happy right now.
Mom: I know. Your sister tells us not to worry about you, that you are very social.
It is always curious to think about what people say when they talk about you. No matter who you are or what you do or how (un)important you think you are, someone talks about you.
Anyway. I guess my parents do not need to worry about me, per se, but it is not like I wouldn't rather have some partner or something to be social with. That does not make sense the way I wrote it. I have great friends. I like to hang out with them. Unfortunately I do not also have a special someone with whom I can hang out. [Or is that out with whom I can hang?]
I am social though. Let's take this week:
Monday: Spontaneous dinner and errand running with friend who I have not seen in a couple of months who lives literally less than half a mile away. She told me she loved my hair and that I looked like I've lost a ton of weight. I obviously love her.
Tuesday: Gym. Work tutoring drop-in hours.
Wednesday: Gym. Dinner out with two of my my former roommates.
Tonight: Dinner in with another former roommate (hi KHC!)
Tomorrow: Gym. Maybe drinks after work.
Saturday: Help out at grad student research symposium in the morning. Skiing with a group in the afternoon as part of the birthday celebration for the friend I saw Monday. Party following skiing.
Sunday: CLEAN, DO LAUNDRY, DO LOTS OF WORK
And there is one weekend in April that already looks like this: Dinner with parents, morning birthday party for niece (and sorta me), first-night barbecue seder that night (I've never been to one and I'm running out of chances!), bridal shower, marathon party. ALL IN ONE WEEKEND.
And I want to defend my dissertation in a year? I need to slow down on the social life.
5 comments:
Makes perfect sense. There is social alone and social with someone. You can be social and still alone.
When you're single, you tend to end up socializing with a wider variety of people. Living with someone, it's too easy to just go home and hang out with them every night. Sometimes I get into that, and I'm not so sure that it's healthy.
That's wa-ay more social than the average grad student! good for you--it's hard to maintain intensity at school and still have impromptu getogethers.
Sounds like a terrific life. Busy, but terrific. :-)
Ron, exactly.
Spark, I definitely am more inclined to plan things and invite people over since I became single!
Aurora, I think you're right. I should tone it down so I can finish!
Danielle, I am happy in general. Apparently busy works for me!
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